Whether you divorced your partner or they divorced you, you still feel the loss. If you’ve spent much time together, you feel a hole in your emotions from the separation. There is that part of your former spouse that caused you to marry them in the first place; you miss that part of them.

You didn’t realize it, but they came to you with good traits and bad traits. At first, mostly all you could see were the good traits. You knew they weren’t perfect; but, you never imagined they could ever have anything wrong with them that could cause you to divorce them; and, they felt the same way about you.

But, somewhere during the relationship, the bad traits showed up. At first, you both really enjoyed each other’s company and then things started happening that started to dampen the fire in the relationship. Whether the problem or problems happened gradually or one big event caused the divorce, there came a time when there was no turning back.

As the frustration, hurt, anger, and disagreements grew, it seemed like the love went away. However, the truth of the matter is, there is still a part of you that loves them just as much as you did before. And, there is still a part of you that they love just as much as they did before. It is just buried under all that pain and struggle. Your heart can still remember the relationship you had in the past. Your heart changes VERY slowly; and, does not ALLOW you to change all your feelings about your spouse.

As impossible as it may seem at times, you can love them and hate them at the same time. You can want to get away from them and want to be around them too. You can be glad they are out of your life and wish they were still a part of it, as well. This discrepancy and conflict of opposing feelings can tear you apart. It can cause you to doubt your sanity.

Jesus doesn’t need to help you find reasons for your divorce; He can set you free without your life having to be perfect. The circumstances of your life can’t hurt you, once you experience the power of God’s healing. It is true that He will do a lot of great things with your circumstances; but, the main miracle will be what He does in your heart.

Mat 28:18 (NIV) Then Jesus came to them and said, “ALL authority in heaven and on earth has been given to Me. Your struggles with divorce aren’t bigger that Jesus, His power, or His provisions. It is a simple thing for Jesus to heal you and set you free from anything you are dealing with.

You have probably already heard that “nothing is impossible with God” (Luke 1:37). The big issue is, what do you have to do to get Jesus’ help? If you went to a hospital, clinic, rehab program, or most any other place for helping people with their problems, most of the responsibilities would be on them for making you well. However, Jesus has a goal for you that you may not be aware of.

Mat 11:28 (NIV) Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Jesus wants to help; He has the power to help; so, what is the problem? You need to spend some time with Jesus and allow Him to help you understand what the hold up is, what is keeping it from being solved, and what the process is for you being healed of these issues with divorce. What is most difficult is the nature of you having a struggle. The problem itself is bad enough; but, the way it is able to dominate you and change a lot of you life make it seem very powerful. What Jesus wants you to learn is, He is much more powerful. And, He wants to help you to be powerful through Him.

Eph 6:10 (NIV) Finally, be strong in the Lord and in His mighty power. Jesus has a plan for you where you not only learn how to handle this issue, He wants to train you and empower you to win over all issues. He wants to develop a relationship with you where you work together with Him. He will train you how to yield to His power and provisions until you are a skilled, trained, experienced, and mature child of God. Everyone goes through similar problems like yours; but, too many of them don’t join Jesus and get life-training. You really aren’t on this planet to just learn how to be a human, you are here to learn how to be dynamic as a child of God.

Jesus offers you the solutions to all of these problems and consequences. But, the big thing He wants you to learn is, you and He can easily defeat them. It is just that you haven’t put as much effort in your child of God training as you have your human training.