The truth is, we all want to live in a place where we can have peace and safety. We are all looking for a place where we can be free from pain and damage caused by such things as problems with divorce. We want to have a life that experiences pleasure and happiness without the fear of experiencing pain and death. The issue we face is, what is it going to take to get into such a place?

Some people only care about how they are being treated. They don’t want to feel the needs and desires of others. They want peace and happiness in their lives but don’t care about other’s peace and happiness. Some are perfectly satisfied with happiness that comes through other’s sacrifices and sometimes even other’s suffering and pain. As long as they can win, it doesn’t bother them that others had to lose.

God, on the other hand, doesn’t have the opinion that it is all about us. He knows what it is going to take for us to be free from pain caused by struggles with divorce. And, He knows how to bring complete happiness and joy to every person. But, it comes through Him when we are only involved in win/win situations for all who are involved.

God is all about grace (giving people a chance to get His blessings and Kingdom even though they didn’t do anything to earn it) and mercy (forgiving people for things that they deserve to be punished for). That means you are going to be able to receive healing from the problems caused by divorce even though you can’t do anything to earn or deserve it. It also means that God is going to set you free from the mistakes you have made that caused the damage and pain in your heart and life.

Even though you have made some really bad mistakes, and even though you deserve what is happening to you, God is going to set you free (grace). And, He is going to do it without you suffering from any punishment (mercy). He is going to make it as if you didn’t do all those things to yourself and others (forgiveness). YOU may feel you deserve some kind of punishment, YOU may feel like you need to learn how to forgive yourself, YOU may feel like you will never be able to undo all the wrong, bad, and evil things you have done, but God will still give YOU His gift. God’s grace (a gift you don’t deserve) is going to be applied to your life; because God is all about gifts.

Before you can start on your journey toward being born again into God’s family, and before you head toward becoming a citizen in God’s Kingdom, and before you start being set free from the difficulties of divorce, you will need to decide what kind of a person you are willing to become. God is all about freedom of choice.

If you don’t want what God has to offer, God wants you to have the right to reject it. But, you can’t KNOW what God is offering you, if you can’t try it out. So, God is willing to allow you to “test drive” His provisions. In other words, you can allow God to give you a “taste” of all He is offering you. You can experience the greatness of God; then after you have done that, you will be able to make a KNOWLEDGEABLE decision as to whether or not you want to continue in it. You will KNOW if you want to give your life over to His way of living.

However, you will only get one shot at testing God’s way, His truth, and His life. He doesn’t allow us to quit trying it out and then come back. So, it is very important that you give it an honest and complete test before you make your final decision. But, He won’t require you to make a final decision until you know FOR SURE whether or not you like His plan.

In the process of gaining all the benefits that God has to offer, there are some things you are going to have to be WILLING to give up. God requires that everyone BE WILLING to give up things that hurt people. If we don’t feel like we are doing something that hurts others but God does, we will have to BE WILLING to give it up anyway. We have to trust that God knows what is best for everyone involved.

You won’t have to force yourself to give up those things God is against. It is vital for you to learn one important rule: Christianity isn’t about what you can do for God, it is all about what God can do for you. All YOU have to do is BE WILLING to give them up. God will help you make the necessary changes through His POWER; but, He will NEVER force you to change. He will simply continue to talk to you and try to convince you that you need to LET Him set you free from them.

Once you decide to BE WILLING to give certain things up, Jesus will start showing you how to yield to His power and be set free from those attitudes and deeds. These attitudes and deeds are the foundational cause of your problems with the difficulties of life and all the other issues you are suffering from. If this is something you would be interested in finding more about, then let’s move forward. Let’s take a look at the steps on how to enter God’s Kingdom so Jesus can set you free from your struggles with divorce.

You need to understand some spiritual principles; and, Jesus wants to explain them to you by using a “field planting” parable or spiritual illustration. A parable is similar to an illustration. However, a parable isn’t just an illustration; a parable is a system for taking some event we see in the life around us and using it to teach a spiritual principle. You are about to experience the process of having “seeds” of spiritual truth “planted” in your life. This spiritual illustration or parable from Jesus is designed to help you understand what is about to happen to you.

See if you can picture this story Jesus is ready to tell you. He is telling a story about a guy who takes a bag of seeds, sticks his hand into the bag, pulls out a handful of seeds, and throws the seeds all over the ground around where he is standing. Do you see it? This planting method is called broadcasting. When this method is used, seeds get scattered all over all kinds of soil conditions. It is impossible to control, with any real accuracy, where the seeds will land. Since the seeds aren’t being individually planted in a specific spot, they tend to land on good and bad soil alike.

In this parable, these seeds are going to land on four types of soil conditions. Three of them will be bad soil conditions and only one will be a good soil condition. Some seeds will land on the path around the field where all the people walk. Some seeds will land on rocks with a thin layer of dirt on them. Some seeds will land on soil where there are a lot of weeds growing. And, some seeds will land on soil that is plowed, fertilized, moist, and ready for planting. We are praying that this is you.

We are giving you the truth about life and eternity (planting seeds). And, you are deciding what you are going to do with that information (soil condition). People have four types of reactions to having such truths from God planted in their life (four types of soil condition). Once we see which reaction category you are located in, we will better understand what is causing your issues with divorce. From there we will be able to guide you into studies that bring healing and blessings from God into your life. Next we will look at Jesus’ parable for explaining these four people-reactions to the good news “seeds” being planted in their life.