Mat 11:28 (NIV) Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Jesus, show me that if am not aware of my spiritual, financial, emotional, relational, and physical needs, then spiritual studies, church attendance, Bible study, prayer, good Christian books and music, and Christian fellowship can be boring. But, if I involve myself in these things so I can get healed, delivered, blessed, and be successful over my issues with loss of a loved one, then they take on a whole new meaning. But, help me see that even though this approach starts opening the door to an exciting relationship with God, I need to make sure it moves to the next level.

Jesus, during those times when I need a miracle from God for one of my needs, sometimes I will develop a LIMITED desire to grow close to God concerning that issue. Teach me that only coming to God with one issue, getting it solved, thanking Him for helping, and then leaving, establishes a temporary relationship with Him. I am momentarily using God to get my spiritual, financial, emotional, relational, or physical needs met. Help me see that it is good I came to Him with my need; but, I need to keep coming. Make it clear to me that He has a lot more to offer than just meeting a few of my needs.

Jesus, teach me that typically I will lose my interest in the Bible, church, Christian books and music, prayer, and Christian fellowship once my problem and the pain it caused is solved; help me see that, that is establishing a business relationship with God. As soon as I get the impression I have my answers and my problems are solved, I may go back to the way I was living before. Help me NOT develop a crisis, problem, and need relationship with God. Help me learn that submitting my emotions to God is the way to open the door to love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (Gal 5:22-23).

Jesus, help me understand the importants of difficulties with loss of a loved one getting me started seeking God; help me see how much that is a good thing; but, also help me see that these difficulties won’t keep me growing spiritually. Show me that they won’t help me get the new philosophies, principles, and training I need for life. They won’t force me to crowd it all out with a heart filled with love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (Gal 5:22-23). If I can learn and get the new philosophies, principles, and training I need for life WHILE I am getting the victory over this loss of a loved one problem, it will help me establish a permanent, love relationship with my heavenly Father.

Jesus, I know of people who have gone far from God after they received a wonderful miracle of a new job or a great healing. Show me that this happened because they weren’t seeking a permanent relationship with God and ALL He has to offer. Teach me that it is normal for me to START OUT using God so as to get a need met in my life; but, God wants me to learn how to build a close and permanent relationship with Him FROM IT. Teach me that the absence of pain is only part of my relationship with my heavenly Father. Help me see that if I start my day with the blessings of God, I will have a much more successful day.

1. Jesus, show me that Christians who sincerely want to know what it is going to take to have an intimate relationship with God and be mightily blessed by Him will all approach God with a lot of diligence.


2. Jesus, help me be a Christian who approaches God with a lot of diligence by approaching Him with a lot of questions about why I fail, why I face difficult problems, and why I can’t seem to win over them.


3. Jesus, help me be a Christian who approaches God with a lot of these types of questions so I can be a Christian who allows God to show me a lot of my weaknesses, inadequate philosophies, and weak principles. Teach me that I need this because these weaknesses, inadequate philosophies, and weak principles are the reason why I fail, why I face difficult problems, and why I can’t seem to win over them.


4. Jesus, help me be a Christian who allows God to show them a lot of their weaknesses and wrong philosophies so I will want these weaknesses and philosophies filled with the strength and truth of God.


5. Jesus, help me be a Christian who allows God to fill my weaknesses with His strength and truth so I will gain a close and intimate relationship with Him. Help me be a person who finds a love relationship that blesses and heals me as an individual.

Jesus, help me want God’s help NOT ONLY in the momentary issues I am facing now with loss of a loved one; help me start wanting His help with EVERYTHING I am facing. As I want to be one of God’s best friends, help me approach the things of God with all of my heart. Help me let God become my goal when I am seeking Him for more and more reasons. Cause this to allow the wonderful things of God to enter into all of my life. Rather than just getting His miracles, blessings, and supernatural help with my problems with loss of a loved one, help me get them in every area of my life.

Jesus, help my relationship with God grow from this one problem with loss of a loved one, to a permanent lifestyle of wanting God to work together with me all the time; help me want a permanent, all-day-long friendship with Him. 1 Th 5:17 (NIV) pray continually. Head me into the place where I allow my problem with loss of a loved one to lead me into much more. Let me find out how to have a complete and totally wonderful life. Let this help me find the answers for ALL my problems and the true meaning for ALL of life.

Jesus, help me understand that problems cause negative experiences and emotions. Also help me understand that blessings, miracles, and successes cause positive emotions. My problem with loss of a loved one is hurting me; my relationship with God is blessing me. As I work through the difficulties of my problems, show me that it is so much better to work through them WHILE experiencing the blessings of my relationship with my heavenly Father. Make it clear to me that my life will never be perfect; I will always be able to focus, concentrate, and meditate on lots of difficulties. Teach me that the solution to my problems is my wonderful, dynamic relationship with God; help me spend most of my time focusing on Him and His provisions.

Jesus, Let me draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith, having my hearts sprinkled to cleanse me from a guilty conscience and having my body washed with pure water (Heb 10:22).

Jesus, teach me that it is in the same way I judge others, I will be judged, and with the measure I use, it will be measured to me. Help me not look at the speck of sawdust in my brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in my own eye. Help me not say to my brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in my own eye. Help me not be a hypocrite, help me first take the plank out of my own eye, and then I will see clearly to remove the speck from my brother’s eye (Mat 7:2-4).

Jesus, sometimes my problems seem to be coming exclusively from someone else. Sometimes I feel like it isn’t my fault for me to say, do, feel, and think the way I do. But, show me that putting the blame on other people or on circumstances may make me feel better; but, IT WON’T BRING HEALING TO ME. Teach me that until I am able to ONLY deal with my faults, I will always have a problem that cannot be solved completely. Show me my part of why I am suffering.

Jesus, even if it is true that it isn’t my fault for why I am suffering and struggling, even though I may have been pushed into this current situation by other people and bad circumstances, make it clear to me that the solution still has to be accomplished inside of me. The answers are between me and God exclusively; help me forgive those other people; help me forget those bad circumstance. Help me see that it’s ME that needs to be healed; show me that many things outside of me can’t be changed. If my focus is outside of me, then You can’t heal ME.

Jesus, deliver me from trying to forgive myself, trying to justify why I am in this situation, trying to explain away the magnitude of my problem, trying to fool myself or other people into believing I don’t have a problem, trying to ignore my problem, and trying to hide my problem. Make it clear that all these things interfere and cause delays in getting help from God.

Jesus, show me that God wants honesty and openness from me; He already knows everything about me. Even though it may hurt my heart to admit how bad things are in my life, help me be open before God. Even though it may attack my self-esteem and my self-confidence to own up to the part I have and am playing in me getting into trouble, help me go ahead and admit my faults. Empower me to let God help me as I admit everything; show me that it will speed up my healing.

Jesus, teach me that if I submit my emotions to God to bring the answers and supply for my needs, He will crowd loss of a loved one problems out of my life. He will answer my prayers by giving me a powerful and pleasurable relationship with Him. Show me that instead of me having the delays to my healing kill my joy, I can allow joy to speed up my healing. Teach me that the love relationship with my heavenly Father will satisfy the need that my mind and heart. It will satisfy the issue I was trying to fix as I participated in allowing or causing this problem with loss of a loved one in the first place.

Jesus, help me understand that once I and my heavenly Father are communicating through an open heart of love, I will start filling my heart and mind with good things. I will be able to hear, understand, and yield to the Holy Spirit influencing me through my conscience. Show me that I will be able to learn, understand, and apply Biblical principles to my thoughts, feelings, words, and deeds. And, the work He is doing in ME will flow through me into the lives of those around me.